(IN)FERTILITY TRAUMA HEALING - 12 WEEK MIND-BODY PROGRAM
READY TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN HEALTH AND WELLBEING?
…BUILD A REGULATED NERVOUS SYSTEM, AND START FEELING CALM, AND IN CONTROL, ON YOUR JOURNEY TO PARENTHOOD.
MEET GAYNOR - YOUR TRAUMA-TRAINED FERTILITY COACH
TAKING A 360° HOLISTIC APPROACH TO SUPPORTING FERTILITY HEALTH.
Guiding individuals and couples, on an empowering journey, to heal pain, anxiety and fear, and build healthy, regulated nervous systems, shifting your state out of fight, flight, freeze or shutdown.
SO YOU CAN EXPERIENCE MORE FREEDOM, AND START LIVING THE LIFE YOU TRULY DESERVE, WHILE OPTIMISING YOUR FERTILITY SUCCESS.
Welcome.
I'm so honoured you're here.
I’m Gaynor, a Trauma Trained Fertility Coach, passionate about helping women, and couples, who have been trying to conceive for many years, to heal past, and current trauma, and break the cycles that continue to fuel your greatest challenges.
Because what you feel, think and believe about your body, and getting pregnant, not only has a negative effect on your psychological well-being, but it can have an impact on your physiology, and all the systems in your body - including the immune system, endocrine system (hormones), digestive system, cardiovascular system.
Helping you to discover your true authentic self and power, so you can start living the life you truly deserve, while on your journey to parenthood.
As well as giving your body EXACTLY what it wants, through Preconception Care.
WHETHER YOU'RE WANTING TO CONCEIVE NATURALLY, OR THROUGH ASSISTED CONCEPTION (CLOMID/IVF/ICSI/DONOR).
If you’re struggling, stuck, feeling alone, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, shutdown.
Exhausted by trying so hard to heal, and do everything physically possible to optimise your fertility, stuck in your trauma or challenged with anything else…
I want you to know you aren’t alone.
I’m here to support you on your fertility journey, every step of the way.
Gaynor ❤️
I’M READY!
Your Fertility journey needn’t be a struggle when you feel emotionally supported
I work with women and couples, just like you, in the UK and abroad…
WHO REALISE AFTER MANY YEARS OF PUTTING THEIR LIFE ON HOLD, WHILE TRYING TO CONCEIVE THEIR BABY, AND OFTEN ONLY FOCUSING ON THE “PHYSICAL’ ASPECT OF THEIR FERTILITY, ARE NOW WANTING TO TAKE A DIFFERENT APPROACH TO THEIR FERTILITY JOURNEY.
A Mind-Body holistic approach.
Because your health is not just about what supplements you’re taking, what organic produce you’re eating, or foods you’re restricting from your diet.
IT’S ABOUT YOUR MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL HEALTH.
It’s about living your life to the full while you wait, this means being more present with your partner and in your relationships, having a social life, having fun, knowing your purpose, enjoying your work, enjoying sex and intimacy with your partner rather than it being for the sole purpose of getting pregnant.
I’m not saying the physical aspect, in terms of what you eat and what supplements you take, isn’t important, I do support clients in this area if this is in alignment with what they want, but the stress-progesterone deficiency connection can’t be overlooked, it is the most common hormonal deficiency I see in women trying to conceive.
👉🏻Signs can include: spotting in the run up to your period, a short literal phase, irregular or absent periods, insomnia, bloating, water retention, PMS, anxiety, mood swings, depression, headaches, migraines, uterine fibroids and cysts, swollen & breast tenderness.
After many many years of putting your life on hold, waiting for that BFP, perhaps you’ve already undergone several rounds of IVF, or experienced pregnancy loss(es), there comes a point when something has to change…
To take a different approach that focuses on you and your needs, and all aspects of your life, not just your fertility.
Not only will it give you your life back, but it will enhance your chances of conceiving your baby too, because the mind-body connection are intrinsically linked.
Who is this for?
- You’ve been trying to get pregnant naturally for a while, or are planning to start your first round of IVF, or you have already undergone fertility treatments unsuccessfully.
- You have experienced a pregnancy loss(es), and are fearful it may happen again
- Possibly you have experienced trauma, grief, and have never had an opportunity to process those feelings, preventing you from moving forward with your life
- You may have been struggling for years with something like General or Social Anxiety, which can amplify the difficulties you're already experiencing while trying to conceive
- You want to come into a more trusting relationship with your body and nervous system so you can feel calm and empowered to be able to handle anything that comes your way
- You’re ready to release long-held limiting beliefs about yourself and others so you can experience higher levels of freedom and start to live a life you fully deserve, while trying to conceive your baby
- You’re ready to optimise your fertility through diet and lifestyle chances.
I often see women who have oestrogen dominance in the body, their oestrogen is too high in relation to the hormone progesterone. And it’s this imbalance that is the underlying cause of so many hormonal issues for women: PMS, irregular periods, bloating, anxiety, mood swings, fibroids and cysts, lumpy breasts.
“When a flower doesn't bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.”
-- Alexander Den Heije
AS A TRAUMA TRAINED FERTILITY COACH
I AIM TO:
- Gently guide you step-by-step to reconnect, and feel at home with your body
- Address the real root of your issues, by helping you to repair your nervous system
- Help you to find and release stored emotions, traumas, and shift limiting beliefs and patterns, that may be inadvertently impacting your fertility
- Support you to shift your states out of fight, flight, freeze or fawn, through self-regulating somatic resources
- Bring homeostasis to your body & mind
- Provide you with the resources and awareness to optimise egg & sperm health (see Preconception Care)
- To show your body it’s now safe to come out of protection and into connection, by giving it EXACTLY what it needs to restore your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and be in the best space to conceive.
Ready to show your body that it’s safe to truly live the life you deserve, while trying for your baby?
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Thank you for trusting me to support you on your healing journey.
Initial Consultation
This is your Free initial 15 minute phone consultation. To assess whether a Mind-Body approach to supporting you on your fertility journey is right for you, and for you to share what issues you would like to overcome, and goals you would like to achieve. I can go into more detail how I can help you, and about the Mind-body techniques I will be using to support you, and answer any questions you may have.
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Mind-Body-Fertility Program - £600
This course is suitable for individuals and couples wanting to try and conceive naturally, and for those preparing for IVF or FET.
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What’s Included:
- 6 x 1-2-1 Bespoke online sessions: weekly or biweekly, depending on your individual circumstances
Creating a strong foundation that perhaps wasn’t there in the first place, so essentially going back to the roots, for the best mind-body self-care strategies to help regulate your nervous system, and helping to set you up to feel empowered and emotionally in control on a daily basis.
-Structured sessions specifically designed to align your mind, body & hormones
Meeting you where you are now, we will get clear on your goals, what you want to heal, identify any emotional blocks, and limiting beliefs you might have that are stopping you from moving forward. Then we go through a healing to release 1-3 limiting beliefs
-Guided relaxations mp3s that tap into & reprogram your subconscious
-Mind-Body Tools, strategies, and techniques to incorporate into your daily life.
-Release stored trauma & emotional blocks somatically, shift limiting beliefs & break patterns, inadvertently impacting your fertility success
-FREE NUTRITIONAL HEALTH & SUPPLEMENT PLAN
To fuel & align your body, mind & hormones, plus 33% discount off your first supplement order.
See Preconception Care
-Guidance on which fertility tests to get & help with interpretation of results for optimum ranges for conception & pregnancy.
-Unlimited email/text support in-between sessions
BONUS
HOW DOES GUT HEALTH IMPACT FERTILITY?
Have you heard of the gut-brain axis? It refers to the constant two-way communication of information between gut microbes and the central nervous system.
Have you ever felt butterfly’s in your stomach when seeing someone you love, or lost your appetite when you’re stressed? Advanced research have described the importance of gut microbiota in influencing the interactions between emotional & cognitive health.
The gut-brain axis (GBA) can easily be disrupted by many different factors, such as environmental toxins, stress, antibiotics, causing the microbiota in the gut to become unbalanced, triggering an immune response, this is is call dysbiosis.
This can lead to inflammation which is a significant contributor to anxiety and depression, and involved in gastrointestinal disorders such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), small intestinal bacterial overgrowth, and colitis.
Which impairs absorption of nutrients, therefore impacting fertility. and can lead to other chronic health conditions like pain, fibromyalgia, UTIs, and has a profound impact on mental health and the functioning of the nervous system.
- Learn what, and how, you should eat for a healthy gut.
This course is excellent value as it incorporates my 9 years experience, skills & knowledge supporting individuals and couples on their fertility journey.
If you are about to start or have already started your IVF please contact me about the IVF Enhancement course.
I REALLY WANT TO DO THIS COURSE BUT HOW CAN I JUSTIFY THE MONEY?
Investing in ourselves can be so scary. Especially if we’ve spent the majority of our lives caring for other people or experienced financial trauma.
I want you to know that you deserve to have a full life.
You deserve to get unstuck in the ways you’re wanting.
You deserve to have tools you can use to shift your experience.
One of the best things about this course is that it covers many modalities, so you’re getting all the foundational tools in one place
While I’d never want you to make a financial commitment that would cause harm in some way, if it’s scary because it’s a bit of a stretch, then I’d invite you to see what that’s like to put yourself first.
I can’t promise you a baby, no-one can promise that, however I have a high success rate for clients following this course, and continuing the work, techniques and strategies in between their 1:1 sessions.
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Why healing the nervous system is a critical part of the fertility puzzle 🧩
When your nervous system is dysregulated, due to unprocessed trauma, pain, unmet needs, or unresolved accumulated stress.
It’s no wonder you’re struggling, feeling stuck, alone, anxious, fearful, overwhelmed, worried, on edge, and struggling to switch off from all the racing thoughts in your head.
Or feeling depressed, emotionally numb, hopeless, disconnected from your body, and the people around you, feeling like your body wants to shutdown, and you want to curl up in a ball.
This is because when your nervous system is dysregulated, it’s responding to your current circumstances through the filter of your past unhealed traumas, emotional pain, and unmet needs.
Using these past experiences as it’s survival blueprint, to keep you safe, but in doing so, causes you to get stuck in a threat response.
Even though the event has passed, or is a perceived threat in the near future…
Your nervous system will act as though it is happening to you right now.
Causing your body to experience the same physiological and chemical conditions (a cascade of stress hormones), as you would if you were under threat, even though in reality you are safe.
When you do the work to heal past traumas, anxiety, fear, pain, and build a healthy regulated nervous system, you bring safety and homeostasis to your body and mind.
Meaning you respond appropriately to your CURRENT circumstances, and return to homeostasis sooner, after the event, threat has passed.
Supporting you to get your mind, body & hormones aligned, to optimise your fertility, while living a fulfilling life along the way
When you have unprocessed trauma, emotional pain, or unresolved accumulated stress, it gets stored in the body.
Causing your nervous system to become dysregulated, keeping you stuck in a state of fight, flight or freeze.
Although your nervous system is only trying to keep you safe, to prevent you from experiencing more pain in the future. By doing so, it keeps you locked in a constant battle with your inner resistance, and a cycle of unhealthy patterns and behaviours, often imaging the worst case scenario.
Because the resistance is actually a deep-rooted unhealed wound from the past.
Resulting in a cascade of stress hormones, affecting your psychological well-being, and impacting on your physiology, and all the systems in your body, immune system, endocrine system (hormones), digestive system (gut health), cardiovascular system.
A regulated nervous system provides you with the energy, resources, & drive, to live the life you want, while trying for your baby
I will guide you through your own healing journey, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, to feel empowered and in control, and beat your inner resistance in a trauma-informed way.
By doing the work to heal past, and current traumas, emotional pain, and shift limiting beliefs, you can build a healthy, regulated nervous system.
Helping you to break the trauma loop that’s continuing to feed your greatest challenges, shifting your state out of fight, flight, freeze or fawn, to show your body it’s now safe to bring in the things you desire.
How having a real or “perceived” threat in your environment, can put the breaks on your fertility.
If you have been trying to conceive for a while you might want to consider maximising the mind-body connection as a way to optimise your fertility rather than sabotage it.
Our subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between what’s happening in our now, and imagined and recalled memories.
It will simply respond to whatever is coming up in your mind as though it were happening in your reality right now.
Our nervous system is our protector mechanism, focusing it’s energy on scanning for danger to keep us safe.
But at the same-time it can really sabotage us from achieving our goals.
It is the carrier for our thoughts, behaviours, and memories, and will bring forward all the thoughts and beliefs to keep you safe.
We may consciously want to achieve something, but on an unconscious level if there’s a part of you that doesn’t want to do it, or doesn’t think you should do it, or doesn’t feel it’s safe to receive.
If you hold the limiting belief ”you’re not worthy enough”, “you're not good enough”, or fearing the future, imaging the worst case scenario/outcome etc…
…the unconscious mind will win every time, as it holds approximately 95% of our power, and it will simply put the breaks on as it wants to protect you.
Showing up as procrastination and avoidance, hindering us to be limitless and take action to move forward, because it doesn't feel it’s safe to do so.
Increased anxiety and stress, emotional blocks, unprocessed trauma from past experiences, and the doubting voice of your inner critic getting in your way, holding you back and draining your energy…telling you things like “your body is failing you”, “you should’ve started trying sooner” etc, will all be having an impact on your physiology and hormones, and potentially your ability to conceive.
Root-cause therapy helps you to see your blind spots that anchor you to your past and future, affecting your mental health, in a ‘safe’ container.
Then we can start to heal the emotions and traumas of the past, and worries or negative thoughts/goals of the future.
To heal your dysregulated nervous system so it can take its foot off the proverbial “break”, returning your body to homeostasis, to be at its fertile best, so you can get closer to achieving your goal and enjoy your life along the way.
The Mind-Body-Connection are intrinsically linked & a critical part of the Fertility puzzle
A recent study at Harvard Medical School measured what happened when women who were having difficulty conceiving were given group CBT. They were taught how to identify recurrent negative thought patterns and how to separate truth from fear. 55% of the women who participated had a baby. Compared to 20% who received no treatment. M Nicholas ‘3 Steps to Fertility’
Often I will hear women and couples say they are on restricted diets, planning each meal within a inch of its life, to the point going out for a meal is not enjoyable anymore. Taking countless supplements they’ve read about on Dr Google that worked for someone else, trying to control every aspect of their physical health, a coping mechanism they’ve developed to help them feel safe and allow them to carry on.
Not only are they more likely to have nutrient deficiencies eliminating certain foods from their diet, but they are miserable. They have stopped enjoying their life because they live and breathe their fertility journey. Feeling hopeless and second guessing everything they are doing incase it hinders their chances of conceiving.
A coping mechanism they’ve developed to allow them to carry on, coming from a place of fear, that they aren’t worthy enough, that they aren’t good enough or loved just as they are.
Feeling that their safety can be threatened at any moment, from deep rooted beliefs such as fear of failure, fear of being alone, fear of rejection, even fear of poverty.
When we are living in a state of fear, we are in a state of protection, which is wired into the nervous system in the form of how we respond and react to our environment and the people around us.
We can’t be in a state of protection and connection at the same time, and this can cause us to feel disconnected from ourselves, and friends and loved ones.
THERE IS A SOLUTION
My Mind-Body course (therapy & coaching) can help you to look beneath that control layer to get to the deeper parts of you that need to be loved, reminded that you are worthy, and not to be scared of challenges anymore.
To help bring your nervous system, body and hormones back into homeostasis.
How Unresolved Stress Can Impact Fertility
Stress isn’t bad for us, if we recover…it helps to keep our nervous system flexible and resilient.
But stresses that have gone unprocessed, unresolved, built up over a long period of time, causing us to spend 80-85% of our day in a fight, flight and or freeze state, will undoubtedly have an impact on our physiology.
It affects our brain, our nervous system, our gut health (microbiome an imbalance leads to dysbiosis), our hormones (endocrine system), our heart, every cell in our body, impacting our overall health and fertility.
But not only this, Dysregulation, having feelings of fear, anxiety, worry about the future, hopelessness and depression etc…can cause your nervous system to believe you aren’t safe keeping you stuck.
NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO GO THROUGH (IN)FERTILITY ALONE
That’s why I offer one-on-one personalised Root-cause therapy (Mind-Body) fertility coaching sessions.
Empowering you to tap into your innate ability to heal.
To help you find, release and heal the root-cause of your overwhelming emotions, limiting beliefs, fears and anxiety about getting pregnant.
To be in a space of safety and confidence within yourself, so you can start to move forward with your life…
Gain new perspectives, clarity, peace-of-mind, and discover how you can get from where you are to where you would love to be.
Is your nervous system trying to keep you safe & inadvertently sabotaging you from achieving your fertility goal(s)?
So you have tried everything physically possible to optimise your fertility.
But have you considered the Mind-Body Connection and the impact (positive or negative) it can have on your fertility and physiology?
Specifically your neuroendocrine system (nervous & endocrine AKA your hormones), in supporting the healing process, and in-turn optimising your fertility success…it is so critical in-fact it shouldn’t be ignored.
Here’s why…
We hit the limits of what we can achieve when our nervous system thinks it’s unsafe.
It could feel that it’s unsafe to receive.
It could feel that’s it’s unsafe to do more.
It could feel that it’s unsafe to allow certain experiences into our reality.
Not that we don’t want it consciously, of course we do that’s a given, but more so we’ve never done, or had it before, or we don’t want to do (or not do things) that we have to in order to allow.
